For a person who always gives it is challenging to find a balance that preserves the self. Their instinct says that they should give to others and others will give to them. Yet in a world that is competitive rather than cooperative, they become drained, their health suffers. Thus the born empaths must learn to retreat, to stop giving, to go agains their God given nature, to survive. They have to learn that in a hostile world such acts that feel selfish are instead self-love.
The sweet emotional butterfly must return to its cocoon stage before pain burns its delicate wings; otherwise it risks entering the "phoenix and ashes" cycles that are so immensely painful. To push the world into the background and yourself into the foreground at these times is an important act of self love.
For the kind hearted soul it feels right to give, it is an instinct. It is as if we feel that love is the lifeblood of the universe, that we need to show our hearts to keep the world and everything in it alive. For what it's worth, the kind are quite right. However, we have gone so far down the path of social darwinism, into a dog-eat-dog world of competition and non-caring, that one must learn a degree of self preservation. One must love oneself enough to say no when you need to. In the real world butterflies don't go back to their cocoon, yet emotionally they can. So listen to your soul and not the demands of others and do what is right for you, only returning to giving when you are really ready to spread your colourful wings again.
There comes a time to stop giving. There comes a time to stop giving love to others. There comes a time to keep what is left of your loving soul for yourself. In ideal times we would give love out into the world and feel love return to us. That is the way we evolved. It is the way it is supposed to be. Yet in this world, if you are one of God's natural born givers, an empathetic soft and compassionate soul, when you feel your own inner fires cooling, for heaven's sake pull of the drawbridge and retreat inside the walls of your own castle.
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