When we muddle up our good wolf self with the evil wolf self we develop ideologies that hold vices up as virtues.
There is a difference between what one may need to do to survive and compete and real narcissistic behaviour; the former does it as an unfortunate means to an ends, the latter has embraced it as an addiction and allowed the conscious brain to twist vices into virtues. Ironically, the former often feels badly about themselves while the latter feels good.
Being mean can replace true kinds of joy, the kind that comes from loving and nurturing, and when left to fester it can present itself in narcissistic behaviours.
Narcissistic is a thing I view as a developmental freeze, for they are both emotionally cold and stunted.
They say we exchange beauty for wisdom as we age, and so perhaps that is a root cause of societal narcism - in a philosophically-poor culture we lack what we need to gain wisdom and so cling to the ephemeral.
Narcism comes of having a fragile ego, they build the walls of indifference and seek status to hide the vulnerable self, striking out, being aggressive. The truth is, if you are secure about who you are and truly love that person, your ego is so strong that you seek cooperation over power, and your self care and love is healthy. The greatest warrior, indeed perhaps the only one, we ever face is the self in that battle between doing the most loving thing and being the selfish primitive self. The narcissist losses that battle every day, always choosing to use their primitive "me first" instincts over the more highly evolved self controlled, empathic and giving self. So, what I'm saying Troy, is that narcism may appear to be a fabulous gift, but it will destroy the "you" you were born to be... poisoning your soul.
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