If you are clingy there is a danger that you may cling to the wrong person, not a protective and loving type, yet an abuser. The protective type can be brusque in attitude, taking control of situations and exerting dominance. They are the hero, the alpha, confident, inspiring others to follow them. Around these types you will feel elevated, stronger, more capable and calm. The abuser is often a false-alpha. Beneath fig-leaf values there is no substance at all. They are cowards. When trouble comes they will hide behind you, preferring that you to take on the damage. Wealth is of greater importance to them than your heart or wellbeing. They will criticise you and push you down. Around these types you will feel greater anxiety, less self worth, greater insecurity. So, if you are ever in doubt, fellow clingy type, as to if you are with the right kind of partner, ask yourself how they make you feel and there is the real answer.
You can be a bit clingy, sure, but you are also trustworthy, loyal, cheerful and sparky. When treated right, you are the best friend a person could wish for. When trouble comes you have a tendency to withdraw and be submissive, yet during that withdrawal period you figure out unique and creative solutions that elude others. It is the way of the natural peacemaker, to take a step back from conflicts, see the bigger picture and attempt to solve the root of the problem. It takes all sorts to make the world go round. "Clingy" has been stigmatised, as have the more "dependent" types, but in that these benefits are overlooked. So be aware of your impact on others, they have their own lives, a need for time alone, a need for time with other friends and family. Honour that. Stay true to your values and you'll be alright. Being a good hearted person counts for a lot. After all, there are a lot of "Shreks" out there, and they need to meet "Donkey," right? They need the friend who stays with them as a steady and warm light, one who proves to them that love is real.
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