father's advice - quotes and descriptions to inspire creative writing
“Rock is cleaved not by storms thrash, yet by aeon’s drip. On and on, on and on, on and on. When time is measured this way, by the micro-erosions of water’s strike, it is the slowest of blades. That is the power of water, for good and for bad. So take care, lovely Cleo, that what brings you to sculptured form is born of sunlit ponds alone.”
I know you've felt alone for so long, sailing on those unchartered seas. I know you've been calling for help in every way possible. The thing is, love, that when you're the explorer, the discoverer, there is no advice anyone can give... and if they tried they'd simply make your job all the harder. Darkness is better than a false light when you're navigating by the stars and by the instincts of the heart. What I can say is this, if you get the chance to sail with someone, do. If that right companion comes along who seeks our destination, make him your first mate and co-captain. The important thing is to sail on, always seeking that which it matters to your soul to find.
You have a life to lead; so lead your life. Make your own choices, even when it appears there are none. And, my lovely, always make love your highest principle, and you'll be okay. You really will.
"Dear Anya," he would say, "never be like a flag, dependant on the capricious breeze for its direction. Be the captain of your own ship; chart a course and navigate with determination in choppy waters and fine. You alone are the master of your own destiny and responsible for the keeping of your humanity in the harshness of life. Do that and, no matter what happens, you will be proud of who you are."
Let your lover be for your heart and not your ego. Choose him for his soul, for his wish to protect, his soft hands that reflect his true self. Choose him for his quiet warmth, not the burning of one who possesses, not the chill of one who is further away than it appears. If you are a light upon a grassy hill, let him be a light on that same hill, content to shine for you as you shine for him. One who would cover your light must leave; one who would strive to outshine you so that you feel so dull seeks no company, only to support a failing ego. One who guards with a jealous heart will make it so that around you all appears dark, as if there is no reason to shine, or foolish to do so. So let your lover be the light next to you, each able to shine however God intends them to, company for each another, sharing their light freely, joyfully.
A person acts better when they feel better; make someone feel worse and they'll act worse. That's just the way it is. Kindness always.
To have a great romantic relationship, first learn how to be alone. You must be truly yourself and able to love and hold onto who you are, and so must your partner. Otherwise you both fall as you seek to please and keep the other in fear of losing them, crippled by a fear of being alone. So, master that, feel solid ground, and anything is possible.