Learn to let in the healthy addictions and the others will lose their grip on you.
We are all born to crave, to live with healthy addictions. It is one of the foundational pillars of creation. We biochemically need love, food, water, warmth, shelter... and one is absent or in short supply, or worse, there is fear and damage, we still need to meet those inborn biochemical requirements to avoid suffering. If the only way available is negative addictions - drugs, casual sex or alcoholism... then that is what will happen. Shame and guilt can't cure these things, only love in action mode can.
People who hate get off on the brain chemicals of hate. They are addicts. They find groups to hate and encourage others to do the same. That they have no clue that they are addicts or that their brains are making up stories to justify and accelerate their addictions. The haters believe their own bullshit and look for "evidence" to support it. This results in a binary world where truth and love become ever more elusive.
When the pain comes my brain makes a million excused to cave in, and I only need one. My thoughts are as a brilliant rat in a very bad maze, for it's just too easy to solve. Then I'm there, at my addiction, awaiting a new fix, praying I can survive this "cure" for the never ending search for comfort.
"Dale, I don't give a crap about the medical establishment; all they do is shine the shoes of big pharma with the sorrow of their patients. Addictions are the need for intensity of feelings, so that's the drug they need, real natural joy. Life in this sterile dystopia is like feeding an infant watered down milk, who can thrive on that? We're gonna helped addicts to find intense feelings in healthy ways - by being truly present in the moment with a natural healthy passion. We're gonna get to know them, help them to get to know themselves, then once they find their passion we just stand back. If we get it right, they'll be addicted to life, addicted to helping others and addicted to shining like the god damn stars they were born to be."